About this Site

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Mission Statement

This website is dedicated to helping others move out of the dark and into the light.  It is a safe, non-judgmental location where anyone struggling with shame, guilt, fear, or anger can find assistance in learning how to cope with these emotions and related issues.

Some of these resources will help, others not so much.  Please read with a open mind.  Use what works for you.  Ignore the rest until another time.


What is the Dark?

The Dark is that secret place inside of you where your fears, shame, guilt, anger and frustration flourish.  It keeps you from feeling confident, standing up for yourself, seizing opportunities and living life on your terms.  The Dark encourages hopelessness insecurity, unhappiness and dissatisfaction with the self.  It stops you from making positive changes, treating yourself and others with respect and compassion, from giving and receiving unconditional love, and from showing your true and vulnerable self to the outside world.

Does this sound familiar?


What is the Light?

The Light is that secret place inside of you where hope, innocence, vulnerability, compassion, empathy, kindness, respect, and radical acceptance flourish.  It acts as your conscience, offers support to help you build self confidence, allows you to make connections with others, and is the foundation from which you can live life on your terms.  The Light encourages compassion, vulnerability, authenticity, confidence, and radical acceptance of the self with all of its imperfections.  It encourages you to be yourself, live your values, ask for and accept help, and be non-judgmental of yourself and others.

Is this something you relate to?


How about those Shadows (aka the Grey)?

The Dark and the Light exist on a continuum.  In between them, live the Shades of Grey, or the Shadows.  Many individuals live in the Shadows and swing between the extremes depending on experience and circumstance.  For those of you struggling towards the lighter end, the Shadows are a stopover on the journey to your goals in the Light.  For those of you in a different place, the Shadows are a stepping stone deeper into the Dark as your fears, shame, etc. take over your life.  Those are but two examples of the many positions that exist in the Shadows.  Where you are now is not where you have to stay forever.


About Me

I am a woman who has lived in the dark of for many years.  By darkness, I mean abuse, domestic violence and the shame attached to both experiences.  Not until 2004, did I even consider another way of life, a life free of shame where my past did not control the present.  The journey to reclaim my life began that year when I made the decision to get outside help.

Thus began my journey into recovery and healing.  Read more

38 thoughts on “About this Site

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    • Thank you for the kind words and the links. I’m glad my website is helping you. Unfortunately, I do not accept links through comments. If you want to share them, please fill out the form connected to the Resource Page. I will check out links from there. Sincerely, AlterXpressions


  3. Wow that was unusual. I just wrote an incredibly long comment
    but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr…
    well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyways, just wanted to say fantastic blog!


    • Blog tips: Choose a company with a good reputation; I use WordPress. Google’s blogger works too; my first blog was set up there. I’m not sure of any others, but most member sites have blogging opportunities too.
      Blog rules or some kind of guidelines helps set the tone and purpose for your blog.
      In terms of software or cyber-related security, I am clueless

      MOST IMPORTANT: My guests and I have built trust with each other, so they help keep this site a safe, anonymous, inclusive space that works within the blog rules


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    • Yes, you are welcome to quote me, etc. as long as you provide the credit and sources back here. For more information or if you have other questions, you can contact me directly through the comment form on the Resources page.


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    • Hello, normally I don’t comment about such topics here. But since many have asked, I use WordPress and take advantage of their free classes/resources to build my site and blog. Good luck with your venture! If you have other comments about this, you can also use the comment form on the Resources page.


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  9. Hi there fantastic blog! Does running a blog such as this require a great deal of work? I have virtually no understanding of computer programming however I had been hoping to start my own blog in the near future. Anyway, if you have any suggestions or techniques for new blog owners please share. I know this is off subject but I simply wanted to ask. Many thanks!


    • Hi and thanks for the compliment. If you go to today’s post, I addressed comments similar to yours from other guests. It’s called “Life Quirks: Technology Troglogdyte”. Short answer is, yes creating a blog is fairly easy. No, I don’t have any computer programming knowledge either. Good luck with your blog!


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    • Thank you! I don’t have a post about tips for aspiring writers yet or about blogging, but that’s coming up in a future post. For now, this is what helps me: 1) keep writing, reading, and learning; 2) If you have favorite authors, check out their site for blog posts or articles about writing; 3) experiment with writing styles and platforms in order to find your voice; 4) finally, make mistakes and learn from them. Good luck!


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