I hate August (the month) and what it makes me feel/remember/think/relive
- Someone once told me (or maybe I read it in different self-help books??) that sometimes people who criticize or complain about my character flaws are actually complaining about ones they have but can’t or won’t admit to having.
- Especially people who feel less confident or are insecure and want to make the other individual feel worse to feel better about themselves – I learned this is true during my vacation home.
- What turned me around most about people’s negative comments is that they have a grain of truth in them. Before I started recovery and therapy to express myself instead of parroting my parents’ and caregivers’ beliefs, I acted that way toward other people.
- It’s okay to love family from a distance. Send cards, email, text messages, or voice mail messages on holidays and birthdays. Maybe a phone call once in a while. And (rarely) an in-person visit when in the same geographical area. That keeps the family happy and allows me to maintain my sanity.
- The people who cause me the most pain and discomfort can be my best teachers as long as I have someone I trust to help me reflect and process the experiences.
- A new home, a real home
- Cooking and baking
- A new therapist until my other one comes back from maternity leave
- A new intern Chinese medicine practitioner
- A new exercise regimen (trauma sensitive yoga)
- A different hygiene routine
Sit back and enjoy the ride. Try not to take anything too seriously. Use the Back to Basics strategies. Try not to let backlash take over. Remember I am safe and happy in my new space. Accept that my family and I will never be able to spend time together comfortably. We are too different.
Thanks for reading