Recovery: Slowing Down & Self Care

Short post today.

I am recovering from a week of panic attacks and flashbacks today, so have not got much to write about.  After this post, I plan on sleeping some more to get ready for Monday’s work, etc.

In other news, I continue to slow down my life to focus on what feels meaningful and important while letting go of what doesn’t with joy and grace.  But more on that later.

Finally, apologies to anyone whose blogs I follow for not being an active commenter.  I am following your progress and cheering you on from the sidelines (aka as a lurker) even though I can’t keep up with all of your updates.  I’ve been on an Internet cleanse on and off for the past few months – only checking in with school, work, and existing author sites on my “read” list – to understand my anger and frustration towards technology.

Social media, in general, is not something I am comfortable with no matter how hard I try to learn and feel safe using it.  If not for the fact that I need some kind of presence to exist for work and this blog, I’d shun it all together and live happily with phone/text, email, and letter-writing.

So please keep me on your lists.  I am following, reading/viewing your updates, and cheering you on from the sidelines.  But I will never be active and seldom will comment. It’s just not who I am or how I choose to live my life.  If I do have something to share, I will comment or use the comment box to send an email thorough your website/blog.

Thanks for reading.

ADMIN: A selfie gravatar…and other news

Hi All,

My original goal was to announce the new website and blog by the end of June.  Along with that, I hoped to make some useful updates to this blog too.

This blog did get a makeover.  I hope it’s more user friendly, but am still learning about different features available here.

My other website is still in progress even if the domain name and home page are partly set up.  I have some ways to go before I start posting, so it’s not being advertised yet.

In other news, I updated the gravitar with a headshot.  Now you get to see me, but without my everyday glasses :/

In the event we ever run into each other in real life, please don’t be offended if I am less than social.  As often as I try to be friendly and polite, I often look the opposite because I’m so busy coping with stuff in my head.  And, well, I have a hard time remembering faces/names/people in general unless we meet in a place that feels safe.

So, there you have it.  One more step into the wide world.  One less option for hiding.  If you want to “see” me, feel free to view my gravatar.

Thanks for reading.

ADMIN: Blog Rules Update – Comment & Link Restriction removed

Dear Guests,

Last year, I had some issues with spammers leaving marketing and sales links in the comments.  At first, I felt guilty that these people didn’t get a chance to share info – especially since this is supposed to be a safe and inclusive place.  But allowing sales and marketing promotion links in comments felt like I violated my own Blog Rules

My first response was to un-spam and approve some of the links; then remove them after awhile.  It was  time consuming and frustrating because my values were in conflict. On one hand, I wanted help people who did visit.  On the other hand, I also wanted this space to be safe from ads, even in comments.

Hence my second, and more permanent response, of a new blog rule restricting comments and links to your sites or blogs in them.  But that felt wrong.

So the new Blog Rules update goes like this:

THE COMMENT RESTRICTION RULE HAS BEEN REMOVED.

INSTEAD…
I am going to trust YOU ALL to self-monitor and only share your blog or website or relevant links that uphold or relate to the purpose of this one if you choose to comment.  And if you do choose to leave a link, please explain why you are leaving it.

Thank you for reading.

ADMIN: 2018 Changes Part 1

Introduction

Back at the end of 2017 and beginning of 2018, I mentioned a couple times that some changes were coming to the website and blog.  I wanted (still do) to update and add more quality resources and make sure that the content stayed high quality and relevant to the original intentions and keeping this a safe, anonymous, FREE resource.

Why?

There are new and different priorities taking over right now.  Some of my explorations require a bigger time investment and a new space to write/share thoughts.  Others are or will be big life changes that also require dedicated, long term focus.

Since I want to do all of that and maintain this website and blog, compromises and changes have to take place.

Website/Blog Changes

  • Untangled Connections is moving to a paid account by June 2018
    • The domain name and/or URL might change (I’m still trying to understand this), but the Web site Name and accessibility WILL NOT CHANGE
    • I will write an ADMIN Post announcing the changes 1-2 weeks before they take place
  • At some point, probably the next holiday or vacation, I’ll be collating all of the Resource posts and putting the links on the Resources page
  • The Search and Menu functions will change to become more user-friendly
    • This might require changes to the theme, but I will know more after making the upgrade

Schedule Changes

  • Posts about me, my experiences with resources, reviews, etc. will take place 1x a week – probably on Sundays
  • Posts about topics and ideas from the Internet or other bloggers will be shared as I find them – could be none one week or up to 4 another week
    • These posts may or may not have comments from me, but the links will be available in the body of the post
  • You might or might not also find links to videos, websites, and Podcasts instead of links to blogs, articles, and organizations

Life Changes

  • I’m implementing phase 1 of the career change plan with the goal of complete changes by 2020
  • I’ve finally saved up and bought the supplies to work on aromatherapy certification lessons (blending, case studies, research paper, etc.), so will be spending a lot of time on that.
    • The new blog mentioned above is part of these lessons.  It will chronicle my explorations in class and with personal use to help maintain emotional, spiritual, and physical wellness
    • **REMINDER** I am not a practicing medical professional and probably won’t be until the agoraphobia becomes less intense, so anything on there will be informational only
  • My home still needs a lot of work – organizing and decorating – to make it feel safe and comfortable and easy to clean no matter my emotional state
    • Requires thoughtful purchasing of storage solutions, time to organize said solutions, and space to cope with any triggers all that brings up
    • Requires creating and implementing new house chore routines to address trigger issues like laundry, food shopping, cooking, and other tasks that require leaving the apartment
    • Requires creating a safe space in my apartment where I can meditate, do crafting, and go for self soothing comfort

So, yes this is a lot.  Not everything will happen this year.  I am going slow, turtle slow.  And my social media usage is taking a big hit because of that.  But there is progress in every aspect of these big changes.

And each small bit of progress is a success.

Whatever you’re doing, please go slow and make time to celebrate your progress too.

Thanks for reading