ADMIN: Taking a posting break – see you in 2 weeks

Dear guests,

A lot is going on in my life right now. Between my family and the management changes in my building, I need to concentrate on finding my equilibrium again if I want to keep publishing quality content here.

That said, I’m taking a two-week blogging break (that includes comments). I wish you all the best and hope you continue to practice self care too. Thanks for understanding.

Sincerely,

AlterXpressions

ADMIN: RSS Feed Issues, Opera, more FAQs

DISCLAIMER: I am not a tech expert, so any information quoted here comes from A) the guest who wrote a comment; or B) WordPress support. To maintain privacy, I did not include any names or handles.

Item 1: RSS Feed Issues

WordPress Customer Support says that my site and blog are available to add to RSS Feeds since both are listed as public. The free article offered this information:

rss feed link update 2019-01-23 at 5.26.09 pm
Option 3 under “Categories” RSS Posts Button – click to add Untangled Connections to your RSS Feed
  • Google Chrome does NOT support RSS feeds like some other search engines (Yahoo, Mozilla, Safari, etc.) so you can encounter errors trying to add any blog or site to a feed from there

WordPress suggested that I also add an RSS Feed links button to my side bar. This button is now the third item on the list, under “Categories”. Click on the button to add this blog or site (or specific post) to your feed.

Item 2: Viewing issues with Opera

A guest mentioned viewing issues in the comments section. This partial quote covers it:

“Howdy just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The text in your content seem to be running off the screen in Opera.”

WordPress support offered this information:

Opera is another internet browser like Google Chrome, Firefox or Internet Explorer. I don’t use Opera on my computer (I did install the most recent version of it to test but couldn’t replicate the issue), but it’s likely that this is a compatibility issue in Opera itself; I’ve used it previously and regularly experienced that sites can look slightly different from one browser to another. That was more of a problem in previous years though but not so much anymore!
If your reader notices this consistently, it would be really helpful to us to find out what version of Opera your reader is using, so that we can better identify where the problem is.

If any guests are experiencing similar issues and want to help Support improve compatibility with Opera, please send me a message.

Item 3: Two More FAQs

Yes, they’ve been added to the sticky post too.

Q5: Do you have any tips for aspiring writers/bloggers? Apprenticeships, etc.?
A5a: I never thought I would be in a position where people asked these kinds of questions, so at this time, no I don’t have any published posts, articles, etc. about blogging or writing. 
A5b: However, I have responded to guest comments with quick tips and information about this topic on the About This Site and Home pages.

Q6: I want to donate to your site. Is that possible? Is there a donation button?
A6: Thank you for your interest in supporting this website and blog. At this time, I am not accepting donations. To accept donations, I have to turn this site into a non-profit organization. That requires legal and business steps I am not ready to take at this time. Maybe in the future…

Thanks for reading.

SELF CARE: 30 hours awake, fear, and general oddness

Colorful butterfly contrasted with gray scale landscape of trees sideways behind a grassy hill with clouds in the sky. Key words: tired, hopeful, dreams, scared, confused
Self Care is hard…

Beginning with…

I admit it. I’m still afraid of my mother. I’m still afraid of being rejected by my father. Life goes on, but the fear stays. And instead of being my present adult self, I’m instinctively reacting to those fears. It stinks.

Makes life difficult because the instinctive reaction is not something I can control. Wasn’t even aware of it before the past two weeks. Life is bumping along, and then…boom! Family is back. Body hurts. Life feels so confusing. Am I losing myself? Why am I reacting without thinking?

Until finally (with help from counselors) it dawns on me. Dong dong dong…I’m not happy with the boundaries my parents and I agreed to about communication. And the fear of not being able to discuss it with my father bothers me on many levels. Plus, there’s mom.

Anything I tell her or write to her is something she can use against me. There’s no point talking to her about this stuff. A) she won’t care or listen. B) she’ll use it as a way to hurt me and add more drama to my life. But Still have to figure out something.

So I pulled on my big girl pants and wrote to my dad after a few hours of self care at home.

And 30 hours straight without sleep…

The self care:

  • Cooking dinner
  • Watching a funny movie with dinner
  • Chatting with a mentor via email
  • relaxing with some prime time TV

Then writing the email to Dad before the TV.

TV as background noise, and I’m distracted. For some reason, card games are on my mind. I find a free online card game (no gambling, account set up, etc. required) where I play against a computer and get engrossed.

9:00 PM rolls around, and I think to myself…one more game. But that game feels like it lasts forever.

10:00 PM rolls around, and I’m excited to watch the next show. But commercials bore me, and I get distracted by a new round of Hearts.

11:00 PM and I’m listening to the weather reports while playing Spades. The noise continues in the background. I keep playing, wanting to win one time.

2:30 AM a noise outside distracts me, so I look out my window. It looks like late afternoon with all the buildings and high rises lit up against a dark sky.

5:30 AM and the sky starts changing color, startling me out of my game. It’s too late for me to try to sleep; work starts in a few hours. After informing my boss, I start working on the day’s tasks. With the first one finished, we agree that I’m better off getting some sleep before starting the next one. I leave work early.

Self Care at its finest…

Some chocolate & tea to keep me awake as I start to drift off…

A phone call to the hotline to check in and try and remember strategies to help me sleep.

24 hours awake, and my second wind hits. A hot meal, and talk with my mentor leaves me feeling relaxed, but not sleepy.

Some hot chamomile tea and deep breathing sets the sleep mood.

I crawl into bed, under the covers around 2PM and finally drift off. But my body has other ideas…

  • Gotta use the bathroom..wake up…WAKE UP…ouch okay 5PM, and it’s time to take a walk
  • Huh…why so dark…my leg’s itching again…ouch…it’s not going away…9:00PM and it’s time for another visit to the bathroom
  • Dreaming…dreaming…who’s trying to escape this time? Oh wait, time to get up and go to work.

And so starts Thursday with the foggy, confused mind and beginnings of body memory pain.

Pain, bruises, dream-disturbed sleep, and 2 posts today

Thursday began with a headache and minor back/shoulder pain.

Friday began with intense, acute upper back/neck/should pain every time I tried to move my arms. Thankfully, my home made massage oil and steam blend helped enough to make working possible. Early to bed, late to wake up. More massage oil and some time with the self-massage ball on my back and shoulders.

Epiphany hits…it’s not my back that hurts, but the muscles around my arm pits and rib cage. The pain registers along my spine because the other muscles are still numb and can’t register pain. Yay for body memories…not. Late to bed, and late to wake up the next day.

Water the plants, worry about my ivy – it’s not getting enough water and needs to be re-potted – but not sure how to fix the problem yet. Pack a donations bag and off to counseling.

A one-two punch: new building management = lots of anxiety. When was I notified? Officially the notes were taped on Friday. Personally, I got them on my way to counseling. Yeah, new management and I just signed a 14 month lease…

Self Care: drop off some donations (clothing that doesn’t work) and get lunch at a new restaurant. Then visit my favorite store and the library. Enjoy the walking around and go home to relax. Some card games, lots of sleep, and more pain management until Sunday morning.

Pain Management: massage ball, light stretching, and finally looking at myself in the mirror – time to acknowledge the pain and see if it shows on my body. Surprise, yup the front of my chest and under my arm pits look slightly darker in color – aka bruised. And now I’m left wondering…what the heck did I do in my sleep between Thursday and Friday? Or is it really my body revealing it’s hurt so that all parts of me can start healing?

And here we are today…

I’m awake. The head hurts. The body hurts.

Took a walk earlier, but not as much fun in the rain and cold as other times.

Read comments, wrote to WordPress customer support, and published two posts.

That’s all for today.

Thanks for reading 🙂


ADMIN: Guest Comments, Evolving FAQ

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Dear Guests,

I’ve been receiving some wonderful comments on the “About” and “Home” pages. Thank you for sharing thoughts, compliments, feedback, etc. The purpose of this “Sticky” post is to address some of the frequently asked questions aka FAQs in an easily accessible place. It will evolve and change as the blog does. If the FAQs get to be too long, I will move them to their own page and keep the sticky one here shorter.

Thanks for reading,
AlterXpressions

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ADMIN Post: Quiet weekend, short post

Due to the extra post this week, this one is short.

Between the nightmares and the stuff with my parents, body memories acted up and caused lots of pain last week. The pain was bad enough that I cried a lot, had some trouble eating/sleeping, and eventually had a panic attack.

Thanks to meditation and acupuncture, the pain has lessened a lot. But I’m still tired, feeling low energy, and slightly dehydrated from all the sleeping & meditating.

On the good side, a lot of the body memories are starting to leave my body. As it moves, the puffiness and swelling go down too. My muscles start to relax more, and everything feels less painful.

So this weekend is a slow one.

What are your plans for a slow weekend?

thanks for reading