Scent Reflections Store Soft Opening — Scent Reflections LLC

Web Store Soft Opening It’s finally here! Thank you all for continued patience and sticking with Scent Reflections through the store’s creation process. The online store is open with a curated selection of products and stock. We are working hard to troubleshoot bugs and other technical issues while preparing the rest of the product offerings.……

Scent Reflections Store Soft Opening — Scent Reflections LLC

You will get the promised promotion on October 30 post (1 day before the grand opening)

I am not asking anyone to purchase items from the store. Nor am I requesting or forcing or manipulating, etc.

This is part of my business promotion and advertising. My hope is that you will be curious and visit the store to see what’s available and read the descriptions. If you are interested, do more. If not, leave.

The choice is always yours.

In gratitude, I will be sharing an exclusive, 1 time promo code for guests who visit here to use at the store. Again, whether or not you use it is our choice.

But thank you for being here and supporting me through this blog.

Thanks for reading.

ADMIN: Updates &Paid Posts Begin October 2020 FAQs

The Easy Stuff

The Disclaimer is moving to the end of the post from now on.

I will continue posting at least 1x a week, but maybe more often than that too.

Contact page: visit Scent Reflections for a contact form.

The Hard Stuff (paid posts)

This is a gentle reminder that as of October 2020 I will be charging a small fee to view certain posts.

Why?

  • Value: Your time is valuable. So is mine. As this blog continues, research, drafting, creating graphics, and social media investment take more time to create quality posts
  • Expenses: The costs to keep this blog ad free and safe are going up. Subscription fees and program fees plus time, research & development and labor all have costs
  • Content & Quality: I want to expand the types of posts available to offer more resource posts, blogging tips posts, writing tips posts, and coping strategies posts. That means paying for classes, webinars, books, and other avenues for education and research share the information and links.

Do I Have to Pay?

No. You will get a preview of the content (first 1-2 paragraphs) and can decide to pay a 1x fee for the post or not. Once you pay, the content is yours to view forever.

What if I am on a Limited Income?

The cost per post is going to be affordable, but not so low that you think the content lacks value. The choice is yours to pay or not pay.

This Stinks! I’m not going to @#%% and am @#%^#@

I’m sorry to see you go. There will be plenty of free content available. Anything pre-October 2020 will be available for free.

Best wishes on your life adventures.

Disclaimer: this is a place of learning, safety, and hope. Take what you want from the post and forget the rest. Maybe this will help you. Maybe it won’t.

Thanks for reading

Coping Strategy: Emotional Support Animals

Disclaimer: this is a place of learning, safety, and hope. Take what you want from the post and forget the rest. Maybe this will help you. Maybe it won’t.

Emotional Support Animals (ESAs): Definitions

ADA covers service animals, not emotional support animals. Use the link to FAQs for more information.

The AVMA (American Veterinary Medical Association) offers this summary about their view of service, emotional support, and therapy animals. This post explains their definition of Emotional Support Animals.

This article is a resource guide defining ADA guidelines and handler responsibilities for working with service, emotional support, and other types of therapy animals.

Why share this now?

Gale.

Plain and simple. Gale is my emotional support cat. I worked with my medical and mental health providers to prepare for and be ready to care for a pet who would also be my emotional support animal for many years. The mental health counselor and I agreed on a timeline. Then she wrote the letter prescribing or supporting my decision.

I shared that with building management and informed the adoption agency too. The agency didn’t require a copy of the letter, so I did not provide it for them. But they were extra careful in helping me select a cat for adoption. They answered as many questions as possible and offered resources for me to find answers on my own too. No pressure to adopt; in fact they said that they prefer I not adopt Gale if I felt in any way uncomfortable during our meeting.

Gale's letting me cover her up
I don’t understand why she does this, but my human likes swaddling me in blankets as I nap.

As for the rest of it, I’m still learning to cope with the challenges of interacting people and making myself understood with cat/pet world terminology. It’s scary and rewarding at the same time.

Last time I tried this, I was not as prepared to face the unexpected challenges of having to communicate and interact with so many different kinds of people. This time I am up for the challenge. And Gale is helping with that too.

I am not going to encourage or discourage you if you decide to adopt or purchase an animal for therapeutic reasons.

I will ask you to read the literature provided in the links and also check in with yourself. Consider your lifestyle, current challenges, financial situation, support system, current goals and successes too. Then start talking about this with important people in your life. Get opinions and feedback from their perspective; listen, use what’s useful, and put the rest away for now.

Because taking responsibility for another living being is a big challenge and a bigger change.

Positive Changes

Gale has me moving more than ever. I even started a regular routine of moving meditation, stretching and light exercise 2x a day thanks to her. She’s so funny and does cat stretches with me sometimes. Other time she watches me from a comfy seated position or distracts me with a tail slap and head butt.

We eat regular meals together. And I’m learning that talking to people is not as scary as I thought. Neither is asking for help. I own my anxiety and how that interferes with communication, so make sure the people I talk with understand that as much as they can too.

Gale in her bed
Hmm…this bed isn’t so scary and evil after all. And I get to keep my new blanket

And sleep! Amazing how a furry friend can help with sleep. I’m not talking about cuddles or hugs – Gale didn’t start accepting or asking for cuddles until a few days ago – but having a welcoming/comforting presence in my space. She likes to sleep on my feet at night. And once in a while we sit together and watch tv or read.

But I also feel safer living in my apartment with her. Gale is an excellent guard cat. She hears things I miss or ignore and watches the door when people get too close outside. And she notices when my neighbors upstairs make noise or do annoying things before I do so I can prepare for whatever they do.

Her best quality, though, is being able to read environmental and emotional changes; then cope with them without too much stress. Gale has met almost all of my alters and doesn’t get upset with the switching as much. Instead, she walks away, changes position, or vocalizes to let me know a change occurred.

Last time I tried working with a puppy. That didn’t work because of my physical limitations. This time, with a cat and 8 years perspective, we are learning to get along and live together with lots of fun and shenanigans.

I’m looking forward to having Gale around for at least 10 more years 🙂 and hope she feels the same way about me.

One Month (almost) Anniversary

Gale took over my chair
This chair is mine now. Maybe, if you give me enough head and cheek scratches, I’ll share.
  • September 21, 2020 is our first month anniversary living together. I’m excited because we’ve been through a lot in our one month tougher.
  • Fire alarm that required me to put her in a carrier a week into living together.
  • 2 long trips out of the house; having to trust Gale not to destroy the apartment while I was out.
  • Mild panic attacks my side as I got used to her food/living/sleeping/litter box requirements, worked, and did chores.
  • Lots of stress on Gale’s side having to cope with being stuffed into a carrier and then outside in the dark/cold night with flashing lights and strangers after a few days living together.
  • Gale getting scared of all the strange noises in the new apartment.
  • Gale running and hiding every time her human makes a sound or body language/hand gesture that scares her.
  • Gale feeling torn between curiosity and distrust in her new environment and with her new human.
  • Gale testing her human by clawing at furniture and then looking to see what she will do.
  • Gale’s confusion when her human doesn’t do more than yell, make a loud sound or spray water at her.
  • Both of us adjusting to living and working together.

Honestly, I’m surprised we survived all that without anyone (my alters and I) getting bitten or clawed.

Do you have animals in your life? Are they grounding and comforting too? Or something else? Share stories in the comments if you like.

Thanks for reading.

Coping Challenge: Obstacles Beyond My Control

Disclaimer: this is a place of learning, safety, and hope. Take what you want from the post and forget the rest. Maybe this will help you. Maybe it won’t.

This is a short post.

Life is hectic right now because of the fires in Oregon and along the West Coast. Then there is snow in the midwest. Hurricanes in the South and Southeast too.

And of course making mistakes or feeling triggered because of stuff happening outside of my control. That’s how life goes sometimes.

But it doesn’t make me feel any less helpless when the obstacles show up and are outside of my control.

That’s when the inner strength and resilience come in to play. I may be feeling triggered because of my own mistakes and outside events or actions or experiences influencing my life. But I can still control my actions and reactions. Sometimes I do things on instinct; in the short term it gets me in trouble. In the long term, sometimes they set the foundation for a better outcome.

Right now, my goal is to stay safe and prepare for the possibilities while working and enjoying Gale.

I hope you all stay safe and healthy too. You have the same inner strength and resilience necessary to cope with the triggers and obstacles outside of your control too.

thanks for reading.

Anniversaries: Labor Day

Disclaimer: this is a place of learning, safety, and hope. Take what you want from the post and forget the rest. Maybe this will help you. Maybe it won’t.

Normally, holidays are a source of tension and triggers for me. Labor Day is one that tends to put me to sleep – as in I can’t cope with all the stuff in my mind and body so shut down to sleep it all off.

But this year is different. I have Gale to keep me grounded and busy – kitty shenanigans at 5:30 AM anyone? – work I love, and loved ones to share time with from a safe distance. Plus I really do need the day off.

So, I’m going to keep this short by wishing you all in the US a Happy Labor Day holiday and everyone else a safe and prosperous week filled with interesting experiences.

Here are some Gale photos:

Thanks for reading