Finding resources and creating options when none appear to exist
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I struggled last year and had to take a break. This year I tried to keep content relevant and stay inspired to write thoughtful posts here.
But I’ve changed too much, and my life has grown so much that the past trauma does not define my life the way it did when I first started this website. The challenges I face these days are similar to the ones most people face in a post-COVID-19 type of world. Trauma is everywhere these days, and all of us are working hard to cope with the life altering changes that come with a pandemic.
Beyond that though, I no longer feel qualified to write here and share ideas with all of you.
Because, as I mentioned before, I am NOT an expert or a professional in medical, mental, behavioral or holistic health care. What I shared with you are my personal experiences, lessons learned from classes, interviews, workshops, videos, etc. They are based on others’ professional research, self-study, and practical experience.
NOT PROFESSIONAL ADVICE OR PRESCRIPTIONS OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT
I am getting too many comments and queries asking me to give them professional help or point them to other web sites and blogs like this one. To be completely honest, I can’t do either one of those things for you.
Not because I don’t want to help that way. But because I am not qualified to diagnose illness or judge whether or not someone else’s blog will help you. Again that goes back to my lack of professional qualifications.
NOT A WRITING AND BLOGGING TEACHER
Finally, this blog has never been a place where I felt safe and comfortable sharing professional writing and blogging tips. I did that in the past to try and help others since this blog was a form of coping strategy and therapy for me in a way. But that does not feel right anymore.
I did that to try and keep myself interesting in posting here. To share my thoughts about journaling and other “traditional” coping strategies that might not work for trauma survivors because of their unique life experiences and triggers. But it did not work either.
So as of today, October 7, 2020, Untangled Connections is officially shut down. I will not be writing anymore blog posts after this one, but I will be making site changes to reflect the decision to close down the blog and resources sections of this site.
The blog will close on October 7, 2020. But all the content will stay available
The home page will have a notice about Untangled Connections Shut Down
Between now and October 31, 2020, I will be removing the Resource page and shutting down all associated social media channels.
On November 30, 2020, the Scent Reflections exclusive coupon post will be deleted
This information is NOT being published on social media since the original guests found me through internet searches and referrals.
Making the coupon code public on social media takes away from the special gift I want to give the people who have followed and supported me on this 5 (or 6?) year long journey.
That said this coupon, 8D23DMBZ, gives you the opportunity to get a free Autumn Bubbles inhaler with your first purchase of $8 USD or more from now until November 30, 2020.
The Autumn Bubbles product line is not yet available for purchase at the Scent Reflections LLC store. You will be getting this product line in advance if you make the purchase between now and end of November.
Web Store Soft Opening It’s finally here! Thank you all for continued patience and sticking with Scent Reflections through the store’s creation process. The online store is open with a curated selection of products and stock. We are working hard to troubleshoot bugs and other technical issues while preparing the rest of the product offerings.……
You will get the promised promotion on October 30 post (1 day before the grand opening)
I am not asking anyone to purchase items from the store. Nor am I requesting or forcing or manipulating, etc.
This is part of my business promotion and advertising. My hope is that you will be curious and visit the store to see what’s available and read the descriptions. If you are interested, do more. If not, leave.
The choice is always yours.
In gratitude, I will be sharing an exclusive, 1 time promo code for guests who visit here to use at the store. Again, whether or not you use it is our choice.
But thank you for being here and supporting me through this blog.
Plain and simple. Gale is my emotional support cat. I worked with my medical and mental health providers to prepare for and be ready to care for a pet who would also be my emotional support animal for many years. The mental health counselor and I agreed on a timeline. Then she wrote the letter prescribing or supporting my decision.
I shared that with building management and informed the adoption agency too. The agency didn’t require a copy of the letter, so I did not provide it for them. But they were extra careful in helping me select a cat for adoption. They answered as many questions as possible and offered resources for me to find answers on my own too. No pressure to adopt; in fact they said that they prefer I not adopt Gale if I felt in any way uncomfortable during our meeting.
As for the rest of it, I’m still learning to cope with the challenges of interacting people and making myself understood with cat/pet world terminology. It’s scary and rewarding at the same time.
Last time I tried this, I was not as prepared to face the unexpected challenges of having to communicate and interact with so many different kinds of people. This time I am up for the challenge. And Gale is helping with that too.
I am not going to encourage or discourage you if you decide to adopt or purchase an animal for therapeutic reasons.
I will ask you to read the literature provided in the links and also check in with yourself. Consider your lifestyle, current challenges, financial situation, support system, current goals and successes too. Then start talking about this with important people in your life. Get opinions and feedback from their perspective; listen, use what’s useful, and put the rest away for now.
Because taking responsibility for another living being is a big challenge and a bigger change.
Gale has me moving more than ever. I even started a regular routine of moving meditation, stretching and light exercise 2x a day thanks to her. She’s so funny and does cat stretches with me sometimes. Other time she watches me from a comfy seated position or distracts me with a tail slap and head butt.
We eat regular meals together. And I’m learning that talking to people is not as scary as I thought. Neither is asking for help. I own my anxiety and how that interferes with communication, so make sure the people I talk with understand that as much as they can too.
And sleep! Amazing how a furry friend can help with sleep. I’m not talking about cuddles or hugs – Gale didn’t start accepting or asking for cuddles until a few days ago – but having a welcoming/comforting presence in my space. She likes to sleep on my feet at night. And once in a while we sit together and watch tv or read.
But I also feel safer living in my apartment with her. Gale is an excellent guard cat. She hears things I miss or ignore and watches the door when people get too close outside. And she notices when my neighbors upstairs make noise or do annoying things before I do so I can prepare for whatever they do.
Her best quality, though, is being able to read environmental and emotional changes; then cope with them without too much stress. Gale has met almost all of my alters and doesn’t get upset with the switching as much. Instead, she walks away, changes position, or vocalizes to let me know a change occurred.
Last time I tried working with a puppy. That didn’t work because of my physical limitations. This time, with a cat and 8 years perspective, we are learning to get along and live together with lots of fun and shenanigans.
I’m looking forward to having Gale around for at least 10 more years 🙂 and hope she feels the same way about me.
One Month (almost) Anniversary
September 21, 2020 is our first month anniversary living together. I’m excited because we’ve been through a lot in our one month tougher.
Fire alarm that required me to put her in a carrier a week into living together.
2 long trips out of the house; having to trust Gale not to destroy the apartment while I was out.
Mild panic attacks my side as I got used to her food/living/sleeping/litter box requirements, worked, and did chores.
Lots of stress on Gale’s side having to cope with being stuffed into a carrier and then outside in the dark/cold night with flashing lights and strangers after a few days living together.
Gale getting scared of all the strange noises in the new apartment.
Gale running and hiding every time her human makes a sound or body language/hand gesture that scares her.
Gale feeling torn between curiosity and distrust in her new environment and with her new human.
Gale testing her human by clawing at furniture and then looking to see what she will do.
Gale’s confusion when her human doesn’t do more than yell, make a loud sound or spray water at her.
Both of us adjusting to living and working together.
Honestly, I’m surprised we survived all that without anyone (my alters and I) getting bitten or clawed.
Do you have animals in your life? Are they grounding and comforting too? Or something else? Share stories in the comments if you like.