Disclaimer: this is a place of learning, safety, and hope. Take what you want from the post and forget the rest. Maybe this will help you. Maybe it won’t.
Hi and welcome.
I have not written a series in quite a while and wasn’t sure if this one would work out. But after the last two posts, I decided the topic of self-protection couldn’t be put off any longer.
My goal is to share a part of this series every week starting today. I/we all hope this information helps you feel safer, more secure, and more confident living in the outside world too.
What is Self Protection?
Some people call protection “armor” or “shields” or “barricades” or “Weapons”. Others use words like “wall” or “boundary” or “barrier”.
No matter the terms or labels used, protection means keeping oneself safe, feeling safe, and staying safe wherever we are in the world. Sometimes that means physical safety. Other times it means emotional safety. Maybe spiritual or environmental safety is required to feel safe and connected to the present. Many people consider the obvious choices for self-protection and often forget that protection can be anything as long as it keeps us safe.
Self Protection in and of itself is neutral. Intention matters and can change what seems like a negative or destructive act of protection into something positive and healthy. The reverse is also true.
Examples: comfort food, exercise, video/computer games, and sleep.
That said, protection can be aggressive (guns, knives, shouting, bullying) or defensive (walking away, wearing body armor, or installing an alarm system); visible (medical alert bracelet) or invisible (mantra or positive affirmation); constructive (positive, safe, helpful, useful) or destructive (harmful, mean, dangerous, negative).
Sometimes the obvious kinds of self-protection are not as effective as we want or hope at helping us feel safe. That is where creativity and self expression come in to play because all parts of me believe this:
There are as many ways to protect and express ourselves as there are living beings in this universe.AlterXpressions
How does it connect with Self Expression and Self-Care?
Self-Care includes being able to protect ourselves from danger. How we protect ourselves and what kind of danger we need protection from depends on the individual. We are unique beings with our own learning styles and ways of self-expression. Each of us has different fears and requires different kinds of options to protect ourselves. What works for me might not work for you. What works for you might not work for me.
But what does work for all of us is learning the tools and skills that enable us to protect ourselves. The first step in that is understanding the different types of self-protection available to us. Then comes the hard part:
- Learn the tools and skills (self-study and exploration, apprenticeship and mentoring, or educational classes – they all work)
- Practice and apply that knowledge in our own lives (requires persistence, self-confidence, resilience, and making mistakes)
- Use creativity and imagination to customize the the tools and skills to fit our needs (fosters positive self-image/body image, self-expression, and thinking outside the box)
In doing this, we all learn to safely express ourselves, feel more confident and secure in who we are as individuals, foster positive self-image, and empower ourselves to be independent.
4 Types of Self Protection Discussed Here
Physical Self Protection
More than self-defense, an alarm system, and weapons. It includes things like:
- Fostering a neutral/positive self image through personal style
- Creating ways to add movement into your daily routine (physical fitness)
- Adding sensory grounding strategies and tools (physical objects) to your every day life style (aka magic bag)
Emotional/mental self protection
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills
- Sleep Hygiene routines
- Awareness strategies (self, other, emotional intelligence)
- Self-Reflection, solitude, or alone time
- Spiritual practice rooted in unconditional love and acceptance
- Meditation and breathing exercises
- Energetic shields around my self & home
- Meaningful, positive connection with self and others (aka support network)
- Physical safe place(s) – home & a few other places
- Mental safe space(s) – alternative to dissociation
- Spiritual safe space(s) – aka nature, religious building, sanctuary as defined by you
- Home decorating with feng shui & energy clearing practices
Whether you are a trauma survivor or not, self-care is vital to our overall health and wellness. Self protection is one small part of self care that can teach and empower us to feel secure, safe, and confident in ourselves. It’s a process that takes a lifetime to learn and apply. But in the end helps in obvious and unexpected ways.
My goal with this series is to:
Show you learning paths that empower you to feel secure and safe in who you are so that you can go out in the world, be your authentic selves, and achieve your goals without feeling the need to hide or be held back by your past experiences.
Thanks for reading