Categories make my head hurt. I’ve tried to forgive and move on from the toxic experiences with my mother with some success. What exactly she did to me, the words she spoke, fits into multiple abuse categories. So many that I stopped trying to fit her into any one category.
Words like “Narcissism” and “Narcissist” are triggering for me because they hold a wealth of emotion, memory, and experience – all related to females more than males.
This post is helpful because the author understands Narcissistic abuse and often provides valuable resources to help others cope with the effects of such abuse. It’s not a topic I’ve covered in therapy, but maybe it’s something I will soon bring up.
The author shares definitions of different types of Narcissistic Mother figures from Michelle Piper. My own mom is a combination of about 6 or 7 of these types, not exactly, but close enough. Some other family members and relatives are combinations of the other types.
Maybe this explains why I seem to always find or attract Narcissistic women more than men into my life and end up repeating patterns. Sometimes I wonder if the sign on my forehead (you know the one) that says “Vulnerable to Narcissists! Come and Get Me!” will be there forever?
Then I remember how much progress I’ve made and the amazing, supportive people in my life now. And I realize that the sign is fading. Very, very slowly. But fading.
Either way, I hope these definitions help you as much as they help me. If not for a mother in your life, maybe a mother figure or mentor instead.
Thanks for reading.
Awhile back, I wrote a blog post on my other site about the effects of narcissistic abuse and the different narcissistic mother types out there, according to respected psychotherapist Michelle Piper. You can find this blog post here: https://mychildwithin.wordpress.com/2016/03/24/narcissistic-mother-types/ After reading through Michelle’s website, I wanted to share the information she provides with my subscribers […]