HAPPY HOLIDAY WEEKEND to everyone who celebrates a holiday this season. Holiday season because so many people celebrate Solstice, Christmas, Hanukkah, etc. during this time of year. I am thankful for all of the many people who have passed through my life this year. Thank you for being part of this blog.
This year was a year of renewing connections. Scary as it is and was, I’ve started to let more family back into my life. Some have stayed, some have left again. In the end, the ones who stayed truly want to be involved and work out a new relationship. The others are happy to know I exist and go on with their lives.
Yesterday, I was in California visiting family for the day. It was a great relief from the living situation issues occurring right now. Except the owner interrupted our day because she couldn’t get in for the inspection; also my smoke alarm was beeping. An inspection that she gave notice of the day before, so my evening was spent cleaning and documenting the apartment instead of relaxing before the visit.
And of course, when I left everything was quiet. Coming home, the flight was delayed; I got home close to midnight. The apartment cold because I turned off the heat for the day. The neighbor complaining because I turned up the heat to warm it up; then turned it down once the apartment felt less cold. And a smoke alarm chirping because the battery was dying.
But today, my goals changed. I was so tired from traveling and other stuff that I slept until late afternoon today. Then went out in the snow for a quick trip to the grocery store, lunch, and batteries. Batteries to fix the beeping smoke alarm. Lunch because I didn’t feel like cooking after I woke up. Groceries to complete what I missed for Christmas dinner tomorrow.
The apartment is still freezing cold, but that’s not going to stop me from enjoying today and tomorrow. Besides cooking will help warm up the place :).
The owner gave notice of an apartment inspection earlier this week and entered yesterday while I was out. For safety measures, I took photos of the place after cleaning it up. So here are a few photos of my first, official, decorated home. Enjoy!
I am almost at my wit’s end with this living situation. Dealing with the upstairs neighbor and the owner is so triggering that I am back in survival mode right now. It’s snowing this Christmas. Unusual for my new city home, but welcome too. The cold has me shivering even inside, but extra layers help a lot. And not having to play with the heat sort of, maybe reduces some triggers.
The neighbor reminds me of the bullies I encountered in school and how helpless I was to fight back and feel safe. The owner reminds me of the emotionally abusive, shaming, manipulative female care-takers from childhood and adolescence. They controlled everything about my living situation and never let me feel safe or secure wherever I happened to be.
Home doesn’t always feel safe with the intermittent noise and heat changes. REM sleep is rare these days too. Hallucinations have started up again. If the visual hallucinations become auditory ones, I’ll be visiting the ER. (fingers crossed that doesn’t happen). Anxiety and hyper-vigilance are increasing. Paranoia and feeling crazy are close companions. In my present mind, I know that I’m not being paranoid and that I’m not crazy. But that doesn’t stop the feelings.
On the good side, there are only 4 days left until my meeting with the attorney. Then there will be some progress and less feelings of frustration or helplessness. Between now and then, all I have to do is keep my head down, enjoy vacation, and survive. All of this designed to keep me out of the apartment and in a happy state of mind.
Thanks for reading!