All parts of me still feel drained and off center right now. Some unexpected challenges and expenditures for my new apartment combined with scheduling appointments around work and the owner’s schedule made this week rather interesting.
I love the energy in this building. In spite of the old windows that stick and have a hard time opening, quirky sliding doors, and electrical outlets that are not always grounded or placed in ideal locations, this studio apartment really does feel like home. My neighbors are friendly, respectful, and quiet. The owner and her management team are respectful, responsible, and responsive too.
- Changing home decorating and budget plans
- Multiple panic attacks because I am changing my budget plans
- Learning more about myself and my unique (but unacknowledged) skills
- Understanding why strategies that worked before are not so helpful this time
The Coping Strategies for Self Care
After a session with my intern Chinese medicine/acupuncture practitioner this week, I decided to try and learn more about empaths and empathy. She physically felt some of the problems I was experiencing during treatment and shared that information with me with calm acceptance.
It was the first time anyone had ever acknowledged and used extrasensory skills in a professional setting around me. And it brought me back to face some facts about myself. I am an empath too. What kind, I’m not sure exactly. I don’t always or often experience physical symptoms of other people in my own body. But I can and do experience energy changes, emotions, and other information about people and living beings through my senses.
All of this led me to a psychiatrist and self-proclaimed empath named Judith Orloff. I’ve been listening to her book called The Empath’s Survival Guide and learning about my extrasensory skills. This includes coping strategies and skills like – sleep, meditation, water, and food.
While I don’t subscribe to everything she’s talked about so far, her unique perspective helped me understand why these four strategies are always part of my “Back to Basics” plan.
Before reading this book, I knew that sleep was essential – my body would knock me out if I overextended myself – but didn’t understand how or why it was so much more effective than taking a pill or using an energy drink to recalibrate like everyone else. Now I understand that sleep is a time for reconnecting with all parts of myself and allowing those parts to relax and replenish energy levels while also healing themselves.
Anorexia and almost a decade of severe food allergies/sensitivities taught me to be mindful of what I eat, how much I consume, and when I eat (frequency of meals) to stay healthy, energetic, and balanced. While following these personal guidelines helped me maintain a healthy weight and feel strong, they sometimes frustrated me too. After reading about how physical sensitivities are part of being an empath and why, I am practicing more self-acceptance and less shame about my unique eating habits & dietary needs.
Showers – aka baths, water, etc. (swimming not so much)
I love water. I love being near water, smelling water in the air, drinking water, taking warm/hot baths & showers, and surrounding myself with the colors of water. Swimming – not so much. Being in the ocean, a river, or a pool – not so much. Being on the water in a boat – absolutely fine. But I’m also ashamed of this love for water. The why is still unclear, but it exists. The book offers an explanation about why I (as an empath) love water so much. I am skeptical and keeping an open mind. Some experimentation is required. But I always feel amazing after a warm/hot shower with my favorite soap.
I’ve practiced different types of meditation since I was 6 years old. Maybe even earlier than that as the martial arts some of my relatives practiced fascinated me. Our relationship has been rocky at times, but meditation never failed me when I needed help. Now meditation helps me sleep better and wake up grounded in the present instead of stuck between the present and the past. On public transportation or in crowds, a simple mediation practice helps me breathe easier and cope until I am alone again. Throughout the day, meditation sometimes replaces my need for a nap or helps me get some physical activity (mindful walk or mindful washing dishes).
The next steps on my healing journey are to explore, grow with, and accept my empathic abilities and how they are influencing my current recovery practices. I don’t know a lot about being an empath or an intuitive; what skills one might have; how to use the skills without draining myself; or how to protect myself from sensory overload. Before now, I couldn’t even acknowledge that my mind, spirit, body self even had these skills.
My parts and I chalked it up to having great instincts. And suffered the mood swings, outbursts, and energy drains from certain people in shamed silence.
Now, it’s time to step out of the closet and learn. Knowledge is power. Power offers protection, insight, and opportunities. Plus, maybe this will help us all integrate and align ourselves better. And we can move forward with our goal for a second career sooner instead of later.
Thanks for reading.