Dental work update
My dental surgery (officially called dental rehabilitation) went well. Mouth and lips are still swollen and a little sore, but nothing terrible. I’ve only had to take 2 pain pills between Monday and Tuesday. The most important thing is taking my antibiotics and following the mouth cleaning instructions.
I’m really happy this happened in May. Too many of my past medical and dental traumatic experiences occurred between March and May. The body memories and flashbacks increase and everything goes haywire. If you visit often, you might have noticed this.
By June, I’m back in crisis care mode – trying to come out of the black hole and “fix” the damage from the last few months. One thing that always flares up is my book addiction.
Yes, I admit it. I am addicted to reading and purchasing books. If I could, I’d have a whole room in my house dedicated to my collection. As it happens, I recently switched to an electronic book library because of all the moves. Hopefully, my next one will be the last for a while. Then I can bring my paper books home where they belong.
So what does all of this have to do with re-defining the past?
The goal is to substitute negative experiences with positive ones. This dental surgery went really well. All of us in the system cooperated. No one woke up in the middle of the surgery. No one has gotten really sick or nauseous from the medication. Other than the swollen lips and jaw, I look relatively normal and feel pretty good.
The landscape inside my mouth has changed. It feels good and right to have the bits and pieces (i.e. teeth) that were causing trouble finally gone. And maybe, just maybe, all of us will be able to “start fresh” with dental hygiene. No more loss of teeth. No more cavities. Actually have a healthy mouth and be able to brush/floss/rinse with mouth wash without flashbacks and body memories.
That’s the goal.
And the care routine the dentist has me on brings me one step closer to creating a routine that doesn’t feel like an addiction or a habit. Instead, it becomes part of my self care regimen.
Yes, I’m playing with semantics (word meaning) here, but sometimes the minor differences mean a lot. “Regimen” has positive associations for me. “Routine” or “habit” have negative associations.
So how else do I cope with the body memories and flashbacks? Especially when I refuse to self-harm anymore and nothing else is working?
I book binge.
Buy books. Purge books from personal collection. Borrow books from library.
Read lots of books whenever I have a moment of free time. Spend weekends reading – eating, drinking, sleeping optional – and reading.
I speed read certain types of books. Others take more time until I learn the author’s rhythm. Or the professional/academic writing style. Then I can read it faster.
How is Book Binge different from Reading?
Reading for pleasure and education as a hobby is great. It’s relaxing and distracting and fun. I get caught up in the world building and the characters, but I can stop at a reasonable time and sleep.
Reading as an obsession or compulsion to relieve anxiety – not so great. I worry about buying/borrowing the book. I worry about starting the book. I can’t wait to finish and skip to the end; then go back and read the rest of the book (sometimes). I can’t stop reading even when I’m tired and have to work.
Buying books from favorite authors to re-read when I have the money – great use of my discretionary funds.
Buying books from a variety of authors I like, but don’t love, and may never read again to relieve anxiety – not so great and puts me in debt I can’t afford or crowds an overcrowded apartment.
I’m hoping this dental procedure helps re-define a really bad month of flashbacks and body memories by giving me something good to think about and work with when the darkness feels overwhelming.
And maybe by working on this routine, I will feel less compelled to hide inside books. I will be able to do something besides immerse myself in fantasy worlds created by amazing authors.
And when nothing in my library or the public library holds my attention (I’ve read or re-read the books too many times in the recent past), I can find something else to do besides buy books and finish them in the same day. Luckily, Amazon.com has an excellent return policy.
How do you re-define your past so it doesn’t affect the present so much?
Thanks for reading