What does a person do when stuck in a car with a stranger and triggered? How does one cope with the pain that comes from a panic attack waiting to happen while taking a Uber home? When is the right time to call for assistance without having the driver listen in? Where does the person go to feel safe and still be present enough to pay attention to the ride?
Since moving, I’ve taken advantage of Uber and its safe driver policy a lot. Taking a Uber allows me to participate in activities across town that I wouldn’t otherwise be able to attend. The driver safely gets me to and from doctor’s offices and new-to-me neighborhoods with low levels of anxiety. We sometimes have interesting chats during the drive. Other times, we’re both quiet and focused on other things.
I’m still coping with my worst trigger yet. A doctor’s appointment that didn’t happen and brought me back to my childhood. In another post, I might analyze what automatic strategies kicked in and how I got home safely, but not today.
All I can tell you is that getting home safely without causing anyone harm during the coping to not have a panic attack or lash out at others is possible. Maintaining safety after that is possible too.
For me, I put a safety plan into place – one that I never had to use before:
- Acknowledge the feelings
- If possible (aka feel safe with the driver), inform the driver that I am feeling upset and not to take my words/actions personally if I lash out by accident
- Quietly focus on who can be contacted via email or text for a distraction (I texted two therapists and emailed another one)
- Focus on maintaining internal calm so that the anxiety does not become a panic attack
- Get home safely
- Use any coping strategies that make sense and can be remembered
Thanks for reading