I found this on my Facebook feed through some friends who sometimes share the affirmations and quotes on their feeds. Lately, they’ve been sharing quotes about shame and self care. Once in a while, they share interesting articles about topics like shame, narcissism, manipulative people, and ways to identify/cope in real life.
This one resonated a lot because I find myself thinking about my past through flashbacks and nightmares during holidays like Labor Day. Sometimes the urge to reach out and contact them overwhelms me; I have to remind myself that contacting them won’t give me closure. It will open a door to let that toxicity back into my life.
Later in the week, I found this quote:
And it reminded me so much of the toxic people I left behind; how they used to bring up my mistakes and embarrassing moments to remind me that I am still the person I was and will never be able to change. At least in their minds, I will stay the same. Nothing I say or do will stop them from believing what they want to believe about me.
So I hope these quotes help you too. When you are triggered, they might offer some grounding through reality testing. When you are not triggered, yet feeling uncomfortable or anxious, these quotes might remind you to think of your present and your accomplishments instead of the past.
That is what they do for me. And for my alters, these quotes are lifelines or bridges to a new way of remembering the past.