Summary of Part 1
In Part 1, we provided examples of situations, conflicts, coping challenges, coping strategies, and possible solutions for addressing triggers and anxiety in the whole DID system. Many of the strategies were combinations of coping techniques previously discussed on the blog. Some were new and probably scary-sounding to readers. Either way, it was a lot of information condensed into one post.
The main point of that post was: sometimes coping challenges require us to step outside of our comfort zones and be brave in order to find calm again. That means observing the internal struggle like a third party and finding ways to address each trigger on its own.
When people say “multitasking isn’t possible; scientific research…”
We don’t know about you or anyone else who visits here, but the quote above is one of our most hated ones. Too often, people would tell us to stop, slow down, do one at a time. Multitasking makes things worse not better. And how can we tell those educators or family members or co-workers, etc. that we are doing one at a time? To someone with DID, multitasking is each part working on a single task. We just happen to occupy one body and appear to be doing multiple tasks at the same time.
In that sense, finding a coping strategy to help each alter in the system when all of us are overwhelmed makes sense right? And if this coping strategy requires mental and emotional energy (read imagination and feelings) instead of physical energy (body-related activities), then everyone has a chance to find their calm center while also allowing our physical and spiritual parts time to sleep, relax, energize, and find their calm centers too.
Please understand that we are not promoting permanent separation of alters in a system. Nor are we devaluing the idea of integration at any level. Instead, we are advocating for us alters to work within our current situation to promote cooperation, collaboration, and semi-integration so that our mind, body, and spirit help each other instead of working against each other during triggering situations. It is not always possible.
In fact, sometimes we are our own worst enemies because none of us want to hurt or burden the others with our pain when it gets overwhelming. Therapy and life are teaching us that sharing the pain and the burden with each other helps us more because we can stand together and support each other when one falls.
Ever heard of the quote “Different Strokes for different folks”?
Each of us is similar and different. We are different ages, genders, and types of living beings. And we have different needs at different times. That is why self-care and self-soothing can be so difficult. How to address the needs of many over a set period of time? And this quote reminds us to be open-minded and allow for multiple options during a session of multiple coping strategies.